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Take the Risk and Invest in Yourself

   Posted On: April 15, 2016  |    Posted In: Career  |     Posted by: Broke Millennial®

Nearly a decade ago I left for college with the intention of getting a degree in theatre and then bursting onto the scene in New York City as an actress. I didn’t fantasize about being famous, but rather about being in plays with social missions that would spark conversations and change public opinion. It’s no surprise I adored shows like Rent, The Vagina Monologues and Fat Pig.

It didn’t happen.

The biggest part of the reason it didn’t happen is because I never really tried. I went to a university with absolutely no notoriety in the theatrical world. I landed a lead as a first-semester freshman and instead of encouraging me it made me feel like there was no competition to push me and develop my chops as an actor. By the time I graduated, I’d talked myself out of even giving it a proper go and instead focused on finding fringe ways to experience the entertainment business without having to risk failure.

Then I landed as a page at The Late Show with David Letterman.

Spending a year of my life surrounded by aspiring comics, writers, actors and actresses who pushed themselves daily to create content and risk humiliation on stages around New York City just made that little voice in my head go, “See, you don’t want it badly enough. If you did, then nothing would stop you. Now get back to making this lady’s bone dry cappuccino.”

So, I let the little voice of doubt win.

After my gig in the often-not-so-glamorous world of entertainment ended, I snagged the first salaried job with benefits that would have me and then stumbled into a short-lived career in public relations. Thanks to the sheer boredom I felt about my then job, I returned to my childhood love of writing in my spare time (mostly because I could do it for free) and Broke Millennial was born.

While this story does have a happy ending, I offer it up as a cautionary tale about what happens when you fail to invest in yourself and follow your dreams. The reason I say this is because I’ve been able to live vicariously through a special person in my life and get a glimpse into the should’ve, could’ve, would’ve of my decision to avoid potential failure. That person is my sister.

13007291_10153745165556137_4197155523140332029_nMy younger sister (even though she doesn’t look it) of three years did everything exactly as I wish I had. She believed in herself. She invested in herself. She dragged herself through the trials and tribulations of freelancing full time and never being quite sure when she’d be getting another paycheck. She dealt with balancing paying gigs with the pursuit of creative projects. Then, at the tender age of 23, she found herself a co-writer/producer/director of a short film in the Tribeca Film Festival.

But let me go back to the beginning.

It all started on a warm summer’s day in 1992…nope, too far.

Cailin began her journey by making a risky college decision. She went to film school. This wasn’t just any film school. Cailin went to number one film school in the country: University of Southern California. Sorry, NYU – it’s true. Suffice to say, she had the talent from the get go.

Through four years of college, I fielded many a phone call from her questioning her career desires. Did it make sense to pursue not only a ridiculously competitive field, but also one not particularly kind to women? Would she ever make it or would she instead just turn to a desk job within a few years of graduating once all the hustling and working for free got old – and unsustainable? And as with all talented individuals, she dealt with some imposter syndrome and voiced concerns about whether or not she was actually good enough.

Then graduation hit and she left the cozy cocoon of USC in May of 2014 and started trying to make it on her own, or at least pay her bills.

The first year came with lots of highs-and-lows. She learned the hard truth about determining your financial value and how to market yourself and network for jobs. She realized how easy it was to set a price that meant you were actually making less than minimum wage because you’d pull 20-hour days. She learned she should’ve listened to her sister and filed quarterly estimated taxes. But she kept pushing, while occasionally calling to voice some doubt about her chosen career path.

During this time, Cailin and two of her cohorts from USC kept working a project born out of summer boredom. (Apparently getting inspired when you’re bored is a thing in the Lowry family). The idea was for a TV show focusing on four women in a band who weren’t boy-crazed and instead actually wanted to be successful. You know – like how we empowered women are in real life but never actually gets reflected on TV?

The three of them kept writing and re-writing drafts of a pilot episode as well as original music for the show. Eventually, they 12961413_10153742971106137_3902783143092027630_ostarted getting some attention and meetings with people that pretended to matter and thus created a “bible” aka a huge document with proof of concept that you’d take into a pitch meeting. Cailin would keep calling about these big meetings that seemed to go somewhere to a point, and then traction would just stop.

Tired of feeling like folks (or rather middle-aged-white-guys) just weren’t totally grasping the concept of Girl Band, the ladies took matters into their own hands and decided to invest their own savings, and capitalize on the friend economy of having other wildly talented friends who could pitch in for free, to create a pilot episode.

Months passed and rather on a whim, Cailin and her two co-creators decided to submit the film to the Tribeca Film Festival. The notion of being selected seemed absurd to these three smart, driven, talented women. So, Cailin went back to life as usual. Hustling to make ends meet while writing in her limited spare time and trying to figure out where exactly she wanted to go next.

Then the phone rang.

Tribeca came a calling and invited Girl Band to have its world premiere at the festival in the Shorts Program.

This is only the beginning. But the point is that my sister invested in herself, believed in herself and fought through the downturns in freelance life to keep pursuing her dream. There may be a day she decides to walk away from the entertainment industry, but I doubt she’ll ever regret investing her time, money and creative capital to make her dreams a reality. Because no matter what happens next, she’s already achieved the greatness so many of us only dream about because she was willing to take the risk. For that reason, and plenty of others, she’s a role model to me – even though she’s my little sister.

For those interested in freelance life, I offer you a little insight from the always witty Cailin:

Here is a partial syllabus for the class on freelancing I wish I had been given the option to take in film school:

  1. Much of your life as a freelancer will be spent chasing down money people owe you. Treat it as an entertaining hobby, like running or something. It’s brain/emotional cardio which is good because you never get real cardio.
  2. How to set up an LLC properly and when to do this, it’s probably before you start being taxed income on full production budgets oops.
  3. Don’t undersell yourself with your day rate, you partially determine your worth also you will one day hire a model younger than you are who makes $1,500 a day and a dog who makes $1,200 a day so…
  4. People are shitty and people are wonderful in equal measure (maybe this is just a life lesson).
  5. When a woman comes onto your set asking why/how you are filming at her home, you should remain calm and not suspect your location contact of committing fraud.
  6. Most people try to make themselves and their experiences sound more legitimate than they actually are, you probably aren’t as behind as you think. Also, sometimes you might find yourself doing this and it makes you seem like an asshole so stop.
  7. When you actually do something cool and people are nice to you about it and you’re all like “no, no, it’s not a big deal, it’s so random, I didn’t earn it” you are also being a bit of an asshole, say thank you and shut up.
  8. Tax season happens every year, it’s your own damn fault if you forget about it. You should’ve listened to your sister when she told you to start doing them quarterly.
  9. As much as it is your singular dream, it would be unfair to own a dog right now.
  10. It is possible to get sick of bagels.
  11. One day your Costco membership will pay off when the manager sees how much stuff you’re buying, comes over with big eyes and seduces you into becoming an Executive Member.
  12. It’s best to shop for craft services stuff really late at night due to no lines, but avoid the Hollywood Vons because shit goes down there past midnight slash in general.
  13. Do not post extras casting calls on Craigslist and expect anything but bad results or people who e-mail you once a day for a month.
  14. Be nice to everyone except for the PA who gets in a screaming match on the phone at base camp, you can be mean to him.
  15. If you upload a picture of yourself onto IMDb, your friends will find it and tease you relentlessly.

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22 responses to “Take the Risk and Invest in Yourself

  1. “Most people try to make themselves and their experiences sound more legitimate than they actually are, you probably aren’t as behind as you think. Also, sometimes you might find yourself doing this and it makes you seem like an asshole so stop.”

    I can’t tell you how true the former is, and how many times I’ve been guilty of the latter!

    The ego boosts are addicting, but one must proceed with caution, as no one wants to do business with a dick!

    Great post!! Belief in yourself is most definitely a necessity for success.

    1. Thanks, Matt! And I agree about no one wanting to be in business with a dick. Humility is great, but you should also be able to accept a compliment.

  2. Great post!

    I find it hard for myself to balance my paying job and my goals of what I really want to do. Some days I wonder if it’s worth the constant stress, but people like yourself and your sister show all of us that working hard eventually will pay off!

    I bet the woman wondering why she was filming in her house was probably a good story!

  3. Aw little sisters rock! I love mine! She too is out following her dreams. Not sure if you have any older siblings but I think when you are the oldest, as I am, there is often no one you can call for that life advice 2 or 3 years out. Sometimes I feel like I am just making stuff up in my own life. When my sister calls for advice though, I can use the little experience I have to give her ideas or reassurance to follow through. Being the oldest has made me more resourceful but sometimes I have no idea what I’m doing in life. I’m winging it but I’m comfortable with that now.

    1. YES! I’m the oldest too and certainly feel like I’m winging it sometimes. I do have a bazillion cousins though, so they’ve helped served as older advisors at phases in my life.

  4. “Tax season happens every year, it’s your own damn fault if you forget about it. You should’ve listened to your sister when she told you to start doing them quarterly.” I was feeling this one a few weeks ago!! #FreelancerProblems

  5. Congratulations on your sister. She is truly an example of someone who has dedications and would do anything to pursue dreams. Good luck to her!

  6. Thank you for sharing your sister’s journey. It’s very inspiring. And thank you for your sage advice. When I read or watch the news, I get depressed. But when I come across posts like this, I take a step back and realize there is hope. And I can’t believe you get tired of bagels! I’m down here in Charlotte, NC, and I would kill for a New York bagel (with a smear of cream cheese, of course).

  7. Thank you so much for sharing this story. It is stories like these can serve as inspiration for people on the fence or are one push away from taking the leap of faith. It is up to you to write your own story in life. Unfortunately though, you can also be your worst enemy along the way. I’m glad that she was able to find success pursuing her dream and didn’t give up when the times were tough. She kept plugging along, working hard, and I’m sure her passion is what helped pushed her over the finish line.

    Thanks again for sharing!

    Bert, One of the Dividend Diplomats

  8. I like #4. People are shitty and people are wonderful in equal measure (maybe this is just a life lesson).

    I think it is a good life lesson. You never know why people act like jerks to others (the layers of the onion could be many). If it is consistent though, don’t spend anymore time with them. Give them a smile and move on. Don’t let them ruin your day. Find the wonderful people and spend lots of time with them. String a bunch of days together where you get to hang out with cool people and you’ve got a pretty good thing going.

    Also, hooray NC!

  9. Great post, thanks for sharing your sister’s story. Investing in yourself is one of the few investments with virtually unlimited upside potential – whether you’re investing time or money into BEST investment. It also shows that YOU are the only means through which you can attain your dreams and desires. So why not invest in yourself?

  10. Awesome story and congrats to your sister! Pursuing our dreams is often tough, and often requires us to be pushed to our limits but there will be a time we get used to it and eventually be able to overcome the challenges. Thanks for sharing this inspiring post!

    -Matt Kohn

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